Third Consciousness

Does Your Relationship have a Third?

Most of us are accustom to relating as if there is only a you and a me in relationship, because that is all we perceive via our five senses. This leads to the thinking that if you are right then I am wrong, if you win I lose, or you are either for me or against me.

But what if there is actually something more going on in every relationship – a relational field that informs everything that goes on between us and holds a bigger truth where each of us is right in our perspective? This field, which represents a Third presence in every relationship, contains an infinite set of perspectives and possibilities for every situation – ones that most of us are not accustom to seeing.

Third Consciousness is the embodiment of this understanding. Third Consciousness incorporates: 

– Expanded perspective which leads to more understanding

– Acceptance and curiosity

– The wisdom from your whole body, not just mindfulness or heart-focused wisdom

– A recognition of just how interconnected we are


The truth is that our bodies communicate with and through a relational field via subtle sensations, where the communication is below our normal level of consciousness. This complex communication informs a lot of the dynamics that occur in all relationships – everything from attraction or repulsion to trust or mistrust to sensing each others’ emotional state to the creation of behavioral and relational patterns.

Bringing this complex communication to consciousness allows us to:

– experience the magic and mystery of how interconnected we truly are;

– exponentially magnify what we create together; 

– open to the infinite possibilities available in the relational field


Although we all access Third Consciousness, we pop in and out. We have not been taught how to access it consciously and to maintain it for extended periods of time. Because Third Consciousness is a state accessed through subtle sensations in the body, it can be accessed in a number of ways.

Some of the relational benefits in Third Consciousness are:

– the person in front of you becomes your ally to help you navigate your internally built barriers that keep you from experiencing more joy, more laughter, more passion, more honesty, and more trust;

– instead of creating boundaries that help you feel safe, but also keep you separate, you can consciously sense the person in front of you so that you deep-down know when you are safe;

– consciously magnetizing the right thing into the relationship, such that life happens for you, rather than to you;

– you are consistently invited into the mystery of the unknown and often, this leads to something vastly different and miraculous than you thought was possible.

We help people access Third Consciousness in all of their relationships to expand into everything that relationship can offer. Using exercises and practices, we help those that read our books, our coaching clients and our workshop participants embody Third Consciousness, so they can live more and more in this state of flow as they move through life.


Get support in unlocking everything that your relationships have to offer you by contacting us today.

Out beyond ideas of right-doing and wrong-doing there is a field. I will meet you there.” – Rumi

We believe that Rumi was talking about the relational field.

Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” – Rumi

Third Consciousness allows us to embrace our friends, family and colleagues as allies in discovering and exploring those barriers.