Does Your Relationship have a Third?
Most of us are accustom to relating as if there is you and there is me, because that is all we perceive via the five senses. But what if there is actually a Third presence in every relationship. This Third presence can initially be thought of as the relationship itself, but as awareness and connection is strengthened and cultivated, it reveals the infinite field of perspectives and possibilities in every situation – ones that neither you nor I are accustom to seeing from where we sit, as two individuals in the relationship.
Accessing this Third involves a consciousness that each of us innately has within, but we have not been taught how to access it intentionally and consistently and then to live from it. All of us pop in and out of it regularly, but we don’t recognize that we’re in Third Consciousness when it happens, and don’t know how to navigate back when we pop out. Because it is a state of consciousness, it can be described, as well as accessed, in many ways.
In Third Consciousness, the person in front of me becomes my ally to help me navigate the barriers that I have built within myself that keep me from experiencing more joy, more laughter, more play, more honesty, and more passion.
In Third Consciousness, instead of creating boundaries that help me feel safe, but also keep me separate, I can actually sense the person in front of me so that I deep-down know when I am safe.
In Third Consciousness, the right thing shows up in my relationships such that life happens for me, rather than to me.
Third Consciousness consistently invites me into the mystery of the unknown and often, may lead us to something vastly different than what either of us thought was going to happen (or sometimes, what we think might even be possible).
We help people access Third Consciousness in all of their relationships to expand into everything that relationship to offer. We do this by teaching how this level of consciousness transforms relating challenges into magical opportunities. We also offer exercises and practices that help clients and students viscerally sense the Third and cultivate this ability to do so more and more often.
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Third Body by Robert Bly:
“A man and a woman sit near each other, and they do not long
at this moment to be older, or younger, nor born
in any other nation, or time, or place.
They are content to be where they are, talking or not talking.
Their breaths together feed someone whom we do not know.
The man sees the way his fingers move;
he sees her hands close around a book she hands to him.
They obey a third body that they share in common.
They have made a promise to love that body.
Age may come, parting may come, death will come.
A man and a woman sit near each other;
as they breathe they feed someone we do not know,
someone we know of, whom we have never seen.”