About The Third

Do you have a Third in your relationship? 

Every relationship has a Third. At its most basic level, in our relationship there is Meenal, there is Kris, and there is a field of possibilities that is around us and between us. This field acts like a Third presence in our relationship.  This Third presence consistently invites us into the mystery of the unknown and often, may lead us to something vastly different than what either of us thought was going to happen (or sometimes, what we think might even be possible).

Our critical minds have evolved to keep us safe by being vigilant to threats. Unfortunately, our critical minds are based solely on the past, so in trying to protect us, they limit us from unexperienced possibilities. Opening to the invitation from the Third, we are always led to more vibrancy, more love, more freedom, more trust, more surprises and/or more growth.

Every interaction in relationship is an opportunity for contraction into habits / patterns, or expansion into mystery and connection.  Following the seeming safety and familiarity of habits / patterns, often leads to the spark of sex, passion and dreams dwindling – being replaced by the sear of complaints and triggers, or the numbness of boredom and obligation. In following the invitation from the Third, even the friction that happens when you and I rub up against each other, on something as mundane as dishes left in the sink, triggers growth and connection. Complaints become a doorway into deeper intimacy. Regenerative sex becomes a barometer for the passion in the relationship that can be used as fuel out in the world. We each play in the mystery and excitement of the unlived life.

We have spent over 30 years cultivating and exploring the Third, diving into its various aspects and possibilities. We rely on our Third on a daily basis to point us to where we are stuck in our relationship and how we can tap into flow. In fact, our courses, our coaching and this very website are based on connection with our Third and becoming clear channels to teach other couples to tap into the wisdom of their relationship and what their Third is pointing to. It may start out as working to explore old patterns and clear out resentments that hold you back from being fully present in relationship. But it can quickly feel like play in creating the honest, vibrant and electric relationship that you want. It may even culminate in your tapping into your Third, to help guide you to part of your purpose – how you are meant to impact this world. We know that all of this is possible, because we have lived it.

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Third Body by Robert Bly:

“A man and a woman sit near each other, and they do not long
at this moment to be older, or younger, nor born
in any other nation, or time, or place.
They are content to be where they are, talking or not talking.
Their breaths together feed someone whom we do not know.
The man sees the way his fingers move;
he sees her hands close around a book she hands to him.
They obey a third body that they share in common.
They have made a promise to love that body.
Age may come, parting may come, death will come.
A man and a woman sit near each other;
as they breathe they feed someone we do not know,
someone we know of, whom we have never seen.”